Don't get me wrong; my Dad did have some character, and did the best he could with the limited parenting skills he had. Sometimes we need to judge people not just on who they are but where they came from. HIS dad was a drunkard, wife beater & child beater. My Dad never finished high school; but it wasn't because he was a slacker. His dad wasn't putting food on the table, so Dad went to work as the oldest of four kids. Then he joined the Army and fought in the Pacific theater. He was only 20 years old when he drove an amphibious tractor all night with nothing but a hand held compass as part of the Los Banos prisoner of war rescue. (see below) He never drank. He never laid a hand on my Mom, and he never beat his kids. The events that he was unable to deal with which resulted in his mistreatment of me are probably too graphic and personal to share on an internet site. So yeah, Dad had his faults, but given where he came from, he did the best he could.
My post on Los Banos rescue:
https://www.yenko.net/forum/showthread.php?t=144405